October 11, 2011
Today I called Dr. Kanashiro's office to let them know that I have decided to sign a new consent, instead of having a partial mastectomy I have decided to undergo a full mastectomy, infact I am going back and forth on having a bi-lateral mastectomy and I have until Thursday to make this decision (2 days).
My mom made a good statement when she said "you cut down a thistle and the root is still there"
October 12, 2011
Today Dr. Kanashiro called me back to speak regarding my surgery. She confirmed that I will be having a full mastectomy as per my request and that we would sign a new consent on Friday morning before surgery. When she asked why I had changed my mind I simply stated that the literature she supplied me with made it very clear that the life time effects of radiation are always with you where as the effects of chemotherapy subside, she agreed.
However, I was also informed that should they discover the cancer has spread to four or more lymph nodes I will undergo radiation anyways. The sound of shakiness in her voice constantly worries me and I wonder if there is something they are not telling me, is this cancer worse than they are letting on?
October 11, 2011
October 09, 2011
Thank You to Everyone who made our dream come true
TARA GRANT
Tara is an amazing lady whom I had not met until the day of my wedding, we got in contact through a mutual friend connection and she kindly donated everything she could and made our dream a reality. Tara dabbles in many fields of interest including photography, wedding coordination, fitness competitions and many more!
On our special day Tara donated items to decorate the hall, her time and took pictures throughout the day.
Cancer has touched Tara's life as well, her husband is a cancer survivor. I cannot wait to bring blessings to peoples lives and be able to pay it forward as Tara did for me.
taraway@hotmail.com
(403) 948-4663
Tricia Mulek from Strathmore, AB made and donated our wedding cake.
triciascakes@gmail.com
FRIENDS AND FAMILYThe support system that I have is absolutley incredible!!!!
Special mention needs to go out to the two people who stood by our side on our wedding day as my Maid of Honor and Dave's best man, Ashley Spink and Mark Waldner! They have been by our side through thick and thin for the last 6 and a half years! We cannot thank them enough for everything they do for us!
Kait Dinunzio is an incredible individual who I had the honor of working with at Husky and developing a personal relationship outside of work. Kait put me in contact with Madigan who photographed our wedding and Tricia who made our cake.
On another note, Kait is also planning a benefit in my honor in November and has set up a website from her point of view www.frombeigetopink.yolasite.com
My amazing planning committee, Lisa Aitken, Jennifer Weiss, Julia Gross, Jennifer Raymond, Ashley Spink...I could not have done it without any of you!
And of course to the people who stood next to us Mark Waldner, Gideon Waldner, Jerry Gross, Ashley Spink, Holly Stevenson and Burgandy Reeves, there is a reason you were all next to us that day.
Everyone else that was involved and as well as everyone who could not be in attendance but absolutely was not forgotten that day, thank you for being a part of our lifes!
Our Ceremony
Wedding Celebration Of
Beige Plotts
&
David Waldner
Sunday October 9, 2011 6:00 pm
Crystal Shores Beach House
Okotoks, Ab
PROGRAM:Processional – God Gave Me You (Blake Shelton) ~Dave and Mom walk down isle.
Bridal Entrance – Bridal March (Jonathan Cain) ~ Beige and Papa
Welcome
Giving of the Bride
These are the Hands
Vows
Exchange of Rings
Signing of the Register – (Signed Sealed Delivered – Craig David)
Recessional– (Cowboy Take Me Away – Dixie Chicks)
CEREMONY
Welcome
On behalf of Dave and Beige, I would like to extend a warm welcome to all of you gathered here for their marriage. Today this bride and groom will declare their love to the world, and promise their commitment to each other. Today they open them arms to the adventure that life will bring, secure in the knowledge that they will experience the coming years together.
Giving of the Bride
Being assured of your love as life long companions, and that you have your families blessings, I now ask, who gives this women to be married to this man?
Thank you Jim and Audrey, you may be seated.
These are the Hands
As an expression that you are joined together in love - will you please hold up your hands and hold one another, so you may feel the gift that you are to each other.
These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever.
These are the hands that will work alongside yours as together you build your future.
These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other.
These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief fills your mind.
These are the hands that will wipe the tears from your eyes; tears of sorrow and tears of joy.
These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.
These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children.
These are the hands that will help you to hold your family as one.
And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.
Vows
I Dave take you Beige to be my wife. I promise to walk by your side forever, as your bestfriend, your lover and your soulmate. I will always put you first; above my own needs and I make this promise to honour these vows we speak today. For today, tomorrow, and forever, I will love you. You are my destiny.
I Beige take you Dave to be my husband. I promise to honor, encourage and support you in our walk together. I promise to laugh with you and when our path becomes difficult I promise to be your rock, to stand by you and uplift you, because I know that we are stonger together than we are apart. I promise to love you faithfully for a lifetime, this is my solemn vow to you.
Exchange of Rings:
As symbols of their commitment, Beige & Dave will now exchange rings. These rings today are bright and shiny. Over time they will become mellow with some scratches and dents but will take on a warm glow. Their relationship will develop the same warm glow over the years as they share the sparkles, the scratches, and the joys life will give them.
Dave, as you place this ring on Beige’s finger please repeat after me…
Beige, I give you this ring as a symbol of my love; and with all that I am and all that I have, I will love you faithfully and unconditionally
through good times and bad, completely and forever. Will you accept this ring as a sign of our marriage, and a lasting reminder of the vows made between us today.
Beige, do you accept?
Beige, as you place this ring on Dave’s finger please repeat after me…
Dave, I give you this ring as a symbol of my love; and with all that I am and all that I have, I will love you faithfully and unconditionally
through good times and bad, completely and forever. Will you accept this ring as a sign of our marriage, and a lasting reminder of the vows made between us today.
Dave, do you accept?
Declaration of Marriage:
Dave & Beige, remember to treat both yourself and each other with respect, and remind yourselves often of what brought you together. Give the highest priority to the tenderness, gentleness and kindness that your connection deserves. When frustration, difficulty or fear assail your relationship – as they threatened all relationships at one time or another – remember to focus on what is right between you. In this way, you can ride out the times when clouds hide the face of the sun in your lives – remembering that even if you lose sight of it for a moment, the sun is still there. And if each of you takes responsibility for the quality of your lives together, your life together will be marked by abundance and delight.
Give to one another new experiences of joy. Challenge one another so that you may grow. May the love you hold for each other, now sealed in marriage, continue to mature with the passing years. May you never take each other for granted, but always experience the wonder of your union. Be slow to anger, quick to forgive, leaving no tracks of resentment behind each day.
We who are present today, hope that the inspiration of this moment will never be forgotten. May all your days and years to come be filled with vision, joy and passion. May the love you now share continue to grow, and may the happiness you bring to each other be a continuing part of your life together. May you continue to laugh often and enjoy each other every day, steadfast in hope and confidence, believing in yourself and believing in each other. May your love be a sanctuary and a source from which you draw strength to live your lives with enthusiasm and imagination. May the people you touch in your lifetime know how much you love and care for one another and may you love one another forever.
Ladies and Gentlemen, Family and Friends
Mr. And Mrs. Waldner
You may now kiss the groom!!!!
Signing of the RegisterSigned, Sealed, Delivered I'm Yours (Craig David)
Recessional
Music : Cowboy Take Me Away (Dixie Chicks)
Beige Plotts
&
David Waldner
Sunday October 9, 2011 6:00 pm
Crystal Shores Beach House
Okotoks, Ab
PROGRAM:Processional – God Gave Me You (Blake Shelton) ~Dave and Mom walk down isle.
Bridal Entrance – Bridal March (Jonathan Cain) ~ Beige and Papa
Welcome
Giving of the Bride
These are the Hands
Vows
Exchange of Rings
Signing of the Register – (Signed Sealed Delivered – Craig David)
Recessional– (Cowboy Take Me Away – Dixie Chicks)
CEREMONY
Welcome
On behalf of Dave and Beige, I would like to extend a warm welcome to all of you gathered here for their marriage. Today this bride and groom will declare their love to the world, and promise their commitment to each other. Today they open them arms to the adventure that life will bring, secure in the knowledge that they will experience the coming years together.
Giving of the Bride
Being assured of your love as life long companions, and that you have your families blessings, I now ask, who gives this women to be married to this man?
Thank you Jim and Audrey, you may be seated.
These are the Hands
As an expression that you are joined together in love - will you please hold up your hands and hold one another, so you may feel the gift that you are to each other.
These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever.
These are the hands that will work alongside yours as together you build your future.
These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other.
These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief fills your mind.
These are the hands that will wipe the tears from your eyes; tears of sorrow and tears of joy.
These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.
These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children.
These are the hands that will help you to hold your family as one.
And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.
Vows
I Dave take you Beige to be my wife. I promise to walk by your side forever, as your bestfriend, your lover and your soulmate. I will always put you first; above my own needs and I make this promise to honour these vows we speak today. For today, tomorrow, and forever, I will love you. You are my destiny.
I Beige take you Dave to be my husband. I promise to honor, encourage and support you in our walk together. I promise to laugh with you and when our path becomes difficult I promise to be your rock, to stand by you and uplift you, because I know that we are stonger together than we are apart. I promise to love you faithfully for a lifetime, this is my solemn vow to you.
Exchange of Rings:
As symbols of their commitment, Beige & Dave will now exchange rings. These rings today are bright and shiny. Over time they will become mellow with some scratches and dents but will take on a warm glow. Their relationship will develop the same warm glow over the years as they share the sparkles, the scratches, and the joys life will give them.
Dave, as you place this ring on Beige’s finger please repeat after me…
Beige, I give you this ring as a symbol of my love; and with all that I am and all that I have, I will love you faithfully and unconditionally
through good times and bad, completely and forever. Will you accept this ring as a sign of our marriage, and a lasting reminder of the vows made between us today.
Beige, do you accept?
Beige, as you place this ring on Dave’s finger please repeat after me…
Dave, I give you this ring as a symbol of my love; and with all that I am and all that I have, I will love you faithfully and unconditionally
through good times and bad, completely and forever. Will you accept this ring as a sign of our marriage, and a lasting reminder of the vows made between us today.
Dave, do you accept?
Declaration of Marriage:
Dave & Beige, remember to treat both yourself and each other with respect, and remind yourselves often of what brought you together. Give the highest priority to the tenderness, gentleness and kindness that your connection deserves. When frustration, difficulty or fear assail your relationship – as they threatened all relationships at one time or another – remember to focus on what is right between you. In this way, you can ride out the times when clouds hide the face of the sun in your lives – remembering that even if you lose sight of it for a moment, the sun is still there. And if each of you takes responsibility for the quality of your lives together, your life together will be marked by abundance and delight.
Give to one another new experiences of joy. Challenge one another so that you may grow. May the love you hold for each other, now sealed in marriage, continue to mature with the passing years. May you never take each other for granted, but always experience the wonder of your union. Be slow to anger, quick to forgive, leaving no tracks of resentment behind each day.
We who are present today, hope that the inspiration of this moment will never be forgotten. May all your days and years to come be filled with vision, joy and passion. May the love you now share continue to grow, and may the happiness you bring to each other be a continuing part of your life together. May you continue to laugh often and enjoy each other every day, steadfast in hope and confidence, believing in yourself and believing in each other. May your love be a sanctuary and a source from which you draw strength to live your lives with enthusiasm and imagination. May the people you touch in your lifetime know how much you love and care for one another and may you love one another forever.
Ladies and Gentlemen, Family and Friends
Mr. And Mrs. Waldner
You may now kiss the groom!!!!
Signing of the RegisterSigned, Sealed, Delivered I'm Yours (Craig David)
Recessional
Music : Cowboy Take Me Away (Dixie Chicks)
Today I Marry my Best Friend
Today I marry my best friend, my lover, my soulmate.
Dave and Beige Waldner
October 9, 2011
6:00 pm
Crystal Shores Beach House
Okotoks, AB
Today was the most perfect Thanksgiving Sunday I could ask for, a wonderful 14 degrees on this October day. I slept in till 9:30 and woke up with a smile on my face knowing that today I will marry the love of my life.
I had a relaxing day as the wedding was at 6:00 pm, I got to take my time getting ready and missing Dave as he had slept the night at Jerry and Ashley's house in following all traditions.
Upon arriving at the Beach House I looked up at my dad and said thank you knowing that besides marrying Dave, my biggest dream in my life, to have my dad walk me down the isle and give me away, was coming true.
It was the most beautiful day, held with all traditions on a short time line. All traditions were honored including the giving of the bride, self written vows, speeaches, dinner, toasts, clinking of glasses, cake cutting, boquet toss, garter toss and to top it all off Dave carrying me over the threshold...for the record...he opened my head with the door...my romantic dude!
October 03, 2011
My Soulmate - The EASIEST decision of my life
Today I went to bed and layed down beside Dave. With tears in my eyes I told him, I dont want to wait for two or three more years to marry him, I want to marry him now.
We got engaged on December 22, 2010 and began planning our wedding, the date was to be May 4, 2012 in Mayan Riviera Mexico. My diagnosis made it very clear that I would not be able to go to mexico at this time.
September 28, 2011
My Diagnosis - The HARDEST decision of my life
On Sept 27th I was sitting in my office up to my ears in paperwork when a bright light appeared in my office as the phone rang. A warm feeling came over me as I answered the phone.
- "Husky Energy, Beige Speaking".
- "Beige, its Dr. Hicks' office calling, you need to come in immediatly, we have an opening tommorrow for you".
For those of you that do not know me, I am a very spiritual person, I beleive in the lord, spirits, angels and loved ones that have passed surrounding you in times when you need them.
That light that I seen in my office that day visited me often in the next three days, not for long but a shooting of light throughout the day to let me know they were there.
The next day I went in to see Dr. Hicks - my family doctor. This visit was everything I had been expecting. Dr. Hicks walked into the room and said "Oh, you are here by yourself, I thought you would bring someone with you." - That is about all I remember of our talk that day.
The next day was my follow up with Dr. Kanashiro, my mom, papa, dave and I all walked in together and she was very suprised to see me and all of my family there ready to take on the information, I informed her that I knew what the results were and I was interested in hearing how we were gonna kick this in the a$$.
- "Husky Energy, Beige Speaking".
- "Beige, its Dr. Hicks' office calling, you need to come in immediatly, we have an opening tommorrow for you".
For those of you that do not know me, I am a very spiritual person, I beleive in the lord, spirits, angels and loved ones that have passed surrounding you in times when you need them.
That light that I seen in my office that day visited me often in the next three days, not for long but a shooting of light throughout the day to let me know they were there.
The next day I went in to see Dr. Hicks - my family doctor. This visit was everything I had been expecting. Dr. Hicks walked into the room and said "Oh, you are here by yourself, I thought you would bring someone with you." - That is about all I remember of our talk that day.
The next day was my follow up with Dr. Kanashiro, my mom, papa, dave and I all walked in together and she was very suprised to see me and all of my family there ready to take on the information, I informed her that I knew what the results were and I was interested in hearing how we were gonna kick this in the a$$.
September 01, 2011
Meeting Dr. Kanashiro
On September 1st I had the pleasure of meeting Dr. Kanashiro at the Breast Health Clinic. This day was filled with many emotions from sadness to hope and beyong. Dr. Kanashiro brought in her portable ultrasound machine to take a better look herself. Upon investigations she decided to drain the cyst to relieve pressure and send the fluids in for testing. The fluid was a merky dark brown and at that moment I knew...something was wrong, this was not normal.
My follow up with Dr. Kanashiro was on September 13th and I attended the Breast Health Clinic once again to get the results of the fluid they aspirated. On this visit it was discovered that the "thick walled cyst" had grown in size since being aspirated and Dr. Kanashiro felt it was a good idea to remove it for further testing. I received localaized freezing and they began the lumpectomy. Once they were in they discovered not only one mass but three - all the size of golf balls (2 cm) and one that poped while being removed. It took everything in me not to look at the masses that had been removed, but coming from a medical profession, I couldnt hold back anymore and turned my help to look at the specimen containers. That was it for me...everything inside of me that was tellling me everything was fine was gone at that moment!
These masses looked like tumors to me, they were light pink in color, wrinkled and oddly shaped and completely solid.
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